Being Loving does NOT mean being a push over. It does not mean being codependent and putting everyone else first and leaving yourself empty.
That’s not Loving at all.
There are many different states of Love. There is kind Love. There is angry Love. There is fearful Love (can you imagine that!?). There is patient Love.
There is passionate Love. There is restrained Love.
Being Loving doesn’t mean you are always happy.
And let’s get something straight; fear is not the opposite of Love. Love has no opposites. In fact, Love is the SPACE that allows free will to happen, which includes fear to arise.
If I were to think of a human attribute that would come close to being the opposite of Love, it wouldn’t be fear - it would be ignorance. As human beings, fear is natural to have, especially when we are growing and trusting our Hearts. We feel fear when we face uncertainty - that doesn’t mean we are unloving - it just means we are growing.
Ignorance, on the other hand, is responsible for all kinds of painful acts. All terrorism, evil and darkness that human beings express are a result of ignorance.
Now, ignorance can produce fear – because when we believe we are separate from our fellow brothers and sisters – that is an ignorant belief. But fear can be healthy.
Being angry can be healthy. The entire range of human emotions has a point or a purpose. To deny our human emotions is to deny the beauty that we are as made by our Creator.
You are not unspiritual if you are afraid. Chances are, you’re growing and doing something new.
Now – sometimes we are afraid because we are in mortal danger. That is an appropriate time to be afraid. I am on the spiritual path, but if my life was in danger you can believe I would be scared.
Every emotion has a purpose. Every state has a reason. The idea is to not let a certain emotion or state become your identity or to let it rule you.
When you are ruled by fear, when you are ruled by anger, when you are ruled by passion – alone – that can be harmful.
Let us honor our emotions and find the reason why they are there. The beliefs about life and ourselves that we hold must be challenged if we are to grow.
This doesn’t mean that something is wrong with you. It doesn’t mean you are unspiritual - it means you are human and that you care.
Love your emotions, all of them, and don’t be afraid to bring some Loving fire or anger to the scene if it’s needed.
How can you Lovingly use all of your emotions today? What if they all had a good reason for being there? How would you view yourself?